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February 16, 2020

Message: A Series Called You: The Helper

Speaker: Jeff Geyer                                                                     

Date: February 16, 2020

It’s important to understand who you are, who others are, and how we relate to each other.

“No one should work with the Enneagram if what they seek is flattery. But no one should fail to do so if what they seek is deep knowing of self.” - Ian Cron

As a follower of Jesus, your identity is not in a number but in Christ.


  • Gut Triad (8, 9, 1): expresses themselves honestly and directly
  • Heart Triad (2, 3, 4): driven by feelings
  • Head Triad (5, 6, 7): think and plan carefully before acting

“I want you to be happy, but I want to be the reason.” – Unknown

If we are to be a church whose mission is to inspire others to follow Jesus, we need helpers committed to creating a comfortable and safe place for all.

"How blessed are you, O Israel! Who else is like you, a people saved by the LORD? He is your protecting shield and your triumphant sword! Your enemies will cringe before you, and you will stomp on their backs!”

Moses, Deuteronomy 33:29 (NLT)

But you see the trouble and grief they cause. You take note of it and punish them. The helpless put their trust in you. You defend the orphans.

Psalm 10:14 (NLT)

So we can say with confidence, “The LORD is my helper, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?"

Hebrews 13:6 (NLT)

Then God in the flesh:

“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Jesus, Mark 10:45 (NLT)

As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home

Luke 10:38 (NLT)

  • 2s accept you just as you are.

Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what he taught. But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”

Luke 10:39-40 (NLT)

  • 2s are great helpers but are terrible at asking for help.

But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Luke 10:41-42 (NLT)

  • What we do with Jesus is more important than what we do for Jesus.
  • 2s are scared to stop serving because their self-worth is wrapped up in serving and helping others.
  • There are two basic types of dysfunction for those needing to serve others:
  • Those who have a need to please (co-dependency)
  • Those who have a need for praise (pride)

Pride is something we all face…not just 2s.

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Matthew 11:28-29 (NLT)

With this in mind, here’s a game plan for 2s to stay healthy:

  • Rather than letting people figuring out how they can help…try telling them directly
  • Don’t reflexively say yes to everything
  • When urged to help, ask: “Is this mine to do?”
  • Whenever possible, perform acts of anonymous service

Prayer for 2s:

“Heavenly Father, thank You for making me in Your image. I believe that You desire to leverage how You made me for the good of the church and for Your glory. Help me to surrender to Jesus as I walk with Him. Help me to resist finding my self-worth in doing things for others. Give me the strength to help because You help me. Allow me to be a healthy helper.

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